A Parent’s Trust
Parents: But Who Can I Trust?
I feel uncomfortable writing this post but it is an important topic. I don’t want to put fear into parents, but it is an important issue and it is important to raise awareness on this matter.
Especially if you are a parent, it is particularly unimaginable to think that anyone could hurt an innocent child. We hear horror stories in the news and think “that would never happen to my kids or anyone I know.”
We all hope that our children are safe in the hands of people that we trust but often, “trust” is what is used by the abuser to become close to a child.
According to Parents Protect, sexual abusers are more likely to be people we know, and could well be people we care about; after all, more than 8 out of 10 children who are sexually abused know their abuser. They are family members or friends, neighbours or babysitters – many hold responsible positions in society.
Abusers also “groom” parents so that they can carry out the abuse. Learn more about the “grooming process” here.
A Survivor’s tip to Parents
A survivor wrote in offering a tip to all good parents out there.
She wrote: “I was sexually harassed and assaulted by a teacher when I was 11. This teacher gained my trust and told me I was auditioning for a TV / film role and made me do a bunch of things that were not ok!!!! And took photos. It later turned out he was a leader in a child pornography ring. But I was so young and just didn’t realise what he was doing.”
Tip 1: “If I could pass on this one tip to help … it would be to educate the little ones with what’s ok and what’s not.”
It is also important to ask your child questions – but what kind of questions? A really interesting article for parents was written by Tonya at We Survived Abuse. She talks about ‘How do good parents miss child sexual abuse?‘
Tonya is a survivor herself and in her blog she points out “My mistake that day was a common one for parents. We think that as long as we ask questions we are on top of things”.
Tip 2: “The truth is, parents have to ask the right questions, at the right time, under the right circumstances.”
Read Tonya’s full article here. It sure gives us something to think about.
Please comment below if you are a parent and have some tips for other parents on how to educate children about this issue.